Introduction: The feminist world of love and ritual -- Love letters to a new me -- Feminist epistolary romance -- Velvet boxing gloves -- Theorizing feminist letters -- Mothers and daughters in correspondence -- Writing the web : letters from the women's peace movement -- Do webs work? : letters and the clash of communities -- Care versus autonomy : the problem of (loving) men -- The paradox of care as a right -- How different is e-mail? -- Care ethics online -- On burning and saving letters -- Stealing letters : the ethics of epistolary research -- Conclusion